The other day on Instagram I posted my notebook and the book of the week. Yes, I read a book a week. No they are not always personal development books. (Did you not see my revelation of Divine Secrets of the Ya-Ya Sisterhood?!). I view reading as super important in daily life, if not for personal growth, but mental agility and sharpness. Plus, I’m a nerd and fall in love with storylines and end up not wanting to put a book down, because unlike a movie, the thrill of reading is flipping through the pages and exploring the written text.
Predictably Irrational is not as confusing as it sounds. In fact, it’s as rational of a title as it is predictable. In a certain aspect, I really went nuts with “how can I take this into my personal business life?” Instead of focusing on the narrow focuses, change to a broad focus. Think this way- the more we have, the more we want. The only cure to escape that cycle is to break those thoughts and leave the cycle of relativity. You want to work diligently to separate your brand, yourself from everyone else by ambiance and technique. Be original.
Yes, you know by know I’m a Jamberry consultant. And yes, I LOVE the job. So I read the book with the lens. As a 2017 goal, I’m looking to build my little team and grow myself and others. So I learned from being Predictably Irrational to take care of your social relationships. Take care of your people and they will take care of the business- be PERSONAL. Without being personal, you fall into a path of social destruction and once the relationship is broken, they are difficult to really build back up. Have a sense of pride in relationships.
I really took this book to heart. I learned a little TOO much from the strategies that Ariely offered. Yet, the concept of transforming negative experiences into positive experiences was huge. I was clueless. But interpret the concept irrationally. Take an ambiguous experience and arbitrarily make the experience a pleasurable experience. Profound. I am still working on how to process all that. However, I feel like we should do some personal self-reflection and become aware of our vulnerabilities and routines we have fallen victim to. Once we recognize those “bad habits” we can retrain ourselves to question future repeated behaviors.
When we believe beforehand that something will be good – something will be good. When we believe something will be bad? Something will be bad.
“Bad Habits” are negative only if you let your mind believe you will never overcome them. Stop focusing on what you may lose. Instead, focus on what you can gain from breaking free from these behaviors and where your life/business can take you. How are we doing that? Being still. Be focused. Stop being impulsive. Start action with intention. Invest in yourself. Learn all the information you can to provide yourself with information that will heighten the awareness of taking that “ambiguous experience and turn it into a pleasurable experience.” You are the only one who can control all this!
“Those who recognize and admit their weakness are in a better position to utilize available tools to pre-commitment and by doing so, help themselves to overcome it.” -DA
For 2017, I plan on creating a system of self-control. I’ve been spending the last 29 years trying to figure out what I am doing. I’m really learning the concept of “being intentional.” Easier said than done, but Areily suggests to model your behavior so others will follow your example. He’s not saying “Put your entire life on social media” rather, (again, business mode), model the behavior of self-control/discipline so your teammates will pick up on your behaviors. You’ll be seeing your team mirror yourself. If you aren’t seeing the success, look at you and your behaviors. “Reflections” don’t lie.
But being a “model business person” becomes draining and we (predictably) succumb to burnout. Having fallen victim to burn out many a time, I’ve learned how to really go ahead a prevent it (when possible). One of the things Predictably Irrational taught me was to broaden yourself over a breadth of activities rather than honing in on a specific skill set. By broadening our perspectives and horizons, we are allowing our minds to become more creative than in a specific mindset. This is where our goal setting really comes into play. We can make things happen for ourselves creatively, everyday.
Lesson of the book: Once we understand our decisions, we can change our thinking about how we choose to act. Okay. Let’s change the word “Decisions” to “behaviors.” Once we understand our behaviors, we can change our thinking about how we choose to act. Pretty profound stuff, no? We should learn to act with pride. Be PROUD to do what you do. Be PROUD to admit your passion, energy and excitement for your profession. Show the world you have a sense of duty to your role. Make it obvious to everyone that had a life-changing experience and pay it forward.